What’s That Date Again?

May 13, 2009 by Michelle

There are some people I just don’t like. Fortunately, there aren’t many of them, but one of my aunts (an in-law who is not so jokingly referred to as the out-law by many in my family) is one of them. She’s cheap, a busybody, vindictive, lazy, judgemental, and I’ll stop there.

She’s the one who is no longer allowed to host Christmas after the year when she had the finger food Christmas. No one was allowed to bring any food that required a plate or utensil. It couldn’t need heating or refrigeration. For Christmas dinner. Seriously. Her contribution was a few small trays of Market Day food for twenty-three of us. And yes, we stopped elsewhere for dinner on the way home.

Yesterday, I received an email invitation from her for Memorial Day. I’ll let you judge it for yourself.

You are invited to our house for a “day after” Memorial Day indoor picnic lunch which is just an excuse to see the new baby, Rachel Anne, who will be 3 months and 1 week old! Please RSVP via email or phone. We will hope for nice weather to get a few games of bean bags in the mix also.

Mildly confused, I sent her an email back asking if she was referring to Tuesday the 25th or Monday the 24th. And ummm what time, as that sorta plays into whether or not we can go. I just received her response.

I realize that I did not make it clear. I meant the day after the ACTUAL Memorial Day (Saturday, May 30), so that would be Sunday, May 31st. I know that was confusing; I’m sorry.

Oh. Yes. Of course. The ACTUAL Memorial Day. Because when someone sends an invitation for a Memorial Day event, they aren’t referring to the date that is a) commonly celebrated or b) on every calendar. Nope, let’s be a total showoff.

Yes, Memorial Day used to be celebrated on May 30. However, in 1971, Congress changed it to a three day weekend. While they introduced a bill to change it back in 1999, it never went anywhere. Coming from anyone else, I’d shake my head at their oddity. However, I know her well enough to know that she’s doing it because she’s just that kind of a person. Trust me, it was no accident that she didn’t put in the actual date. She wanted to feel superior to everyone else.

And May 31? Yeah, sorry. I can’t make it. It’s my anniversary, and driving three plus hours to and from her house is just not the celebration I’m looking for. Besides, we have t-ball, a birthday party, and a friend’s business launch early that afternoon. Maybe next time.

And I’m so proud of myself for getting through this whole post without calling her a mean name.



  • Melisa with one S


    I’m speechless. Are you sure we’re not twins?

  • Megryansmom

    well then

  • Bee and Rose

    I have one of those in my family too….we must be related! lol!

  • septembermom

    Isn’t it better to deal with these annoying people via email? I’m always afraid that there is a greater chance of my sarcastic side kicking in if I’m having a face to face conversation.

  • Mimi


    Thanks for stopping by my blog & making my to make my SITS day special!

  • Brenda

    At the end of the day, those people actually keep life interesting becuase they give us SO much to talk about! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  • wenderful

    Thanks for stopping by and helping me celebrate my sits day today! I had ginormous fun.

  • shopannies

    you did great now you can take a deep breath and live again. LOL

  • Roxane

    WOW are you one of my long lost relatives because I have a few of those in my family! Aren’t they a trip?!

  • MaBunny

    wow, um, ok.. I know a few people like that.
    Sounds like you will have alot more fun at your house with your plans:))

  • t.t. millers

    I think everyone has one of those in the family! My post would be way too long if I went into details! HA!

  • Cookie

    Sounds like a good enough excuse to me!

  • Heather

    Kudos to you for no name calling! I don’t think I would have been able to resist!

  • Karen

    Send cookies for the event, with your regrets. You make a mean batch of “special” cookies, right?

  • Michelle

    Melisa – Ummm nope, I’m actually NOT sure. Except that you’re like 20 years older than me ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Megryansmom – Yeah… I kinda went overboard, didn’t I?

    Bee and Rose – The more I talk to friends, the more I learn we *all* have one of these in our families.

    septembermom – Yep. That way I can stop and compose myself. Apparently we’re cut from the same cloth.

    Mimi – I’m glad you see the humor in it. I’m still working my way there.

    Brenda – Oooo, now THERE’S the silver lining I was looking for. Thanks!

    wenderful – I can imagine. It’s a neat treat.

    shopannies – Except that I did send back the next day an email innocently saying that I hadn’t followed the news enough as I didn’t realize Congress had finally moved it back from the last Mon in May to the original May 30. She didn’t respond.

    Roxane – Yes, yes… and I wish sometimes they’d TAKE a trip.

    tt millers – Probably, but hey… fodder for your own blog, no?

    Cookie – Me, too. My mom is BEGGING to be allowed to take Little Miss herself. Because a good friend’s birthday party isn’t a reason to not go in her mind.

    Heather – I only did when relaying it to my husband. Beyond that, I’ve been remarkably good. I think.

    Karen – Ooo, you’re MEAN. No wonder I like you.

  • Megryansmom

    Oh I didn’t mean well then to you. Your aunt is just a smidge odd LOL

  • angela | the painted house

    Oh, my!

    Thanks for the history lesson!

  • Michelle

    Megryansmom – She is … odd. But I probably did go off the deep end ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m still bitter about it though.

    Angela – Heh, that’s courtesy living with my husband. Eventually the trivia starts to rub off.

  • Angela

    Oh my gosh. That is crazy. I imagine that, by now, she is regretting her stab at superiority, after probably every invitee has had to write and ask what the deal is. ‘Cause I was thinking, um… a Tuesday get together? LOL

  • Michelle

    Angela – Nope, this is a woman who never regrets a thing. She’ll put it all on us for not knowing that Memorial Day was once on the 30th and thus she meant the 31st. And I’m still not going ๐Ÿ™‚

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